Alina asked the question at 30. I asked it much later.
What my first podcast guest taught me about who reinvention is actually for.
At 30, Alina was sitting in her office a nice job, close to home, in the industry she had studied for. A category manager in retail. On paper, the kind of role you work hard to land.
One afternoon, in a quiet moment between the chaos she had spent months fixing, she asked herself a question:
“Is this something I would want to do until I retire?”
The answer came back immediately. A big, clear no.
That “no” changed the trajectory of her life.
Alina Margineanu is the founder of Avva Performance, a company built around helping people grow and become evolutionary leaders. She works one-on-one with people going through transformation not just professional, but deeply personal.
I met her roughly twenty years ago, in my first corporate job. We were both young, both ambitious, both navigating that early-career chapter where everything felt like it will last forever. At some point, our paths separated. And when I found out, years later, that she had left the corporate world to build her own company, I was stunned. She was the last person I imagined would leap.
Which is exactly why I wanted her as my first guest.
What stayed with me
Alina was wise at 30. That is the simplest and most honest thing I can say after sitting with our conversation for a few weeks.
She didn’t ask her question from a place of crisis. She wasn’t burned out. She didn’t hate her job. She liked it and still, something in her knew that liking it wasn’t the same as wanting it for thirty more years. She noticed the distinction. Most people don’t.
At 30, I was doing something entirely different. I was leaving Romania. Moving countries. Learning a new language, a new culture, a whole new life. I wasn’t asking myself Alina’s question. I was making a bold move but not from the same self-aware place she was making hers. I was searching for myself in an unconscious way something that only revealed itself later. It took me many more years to arrive at the version of her question, and to be ready to hear my own answer to it.
That time gap used to make me feel like I was late. Talking to Alina helped me see it differently. We weren’t on the same clock. We were on different journeys that eventually asked similar questions just at different ages, through different doorways.
My reflections since the episode
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about who reinvention is actually for.
We live in a culture that treats reinvention like a universal prescription leave your job, follow your passion, find your purpose, become your authentic self. It’s become a powerful story. And I believe in it, mostly. I’m living it.
But I also want to say something gentler, something I believe: reinvention is not everyone’s path, and it shouldn’t be.
I think reinvention is specifically the journey of people who grew up not knowing who they really were. People who were shaped by expectations, by circumstances, by stories that didn’t fully belong to them and who, at some point in their lives, decided to go looking for who they actually are.
I am one of those people.
But some people grew up already close to themselves. They knew early what they loved, who they were, how they wanted to live and they built lives aligned with that knowing. For them, staying is not cowardice. Staying is the wisdom. They don’t need to leave anything to be honest with themselves. They already are.
If you’re reading this and you already know who you are, that is its own kind of gift. You don’t owe anyone a reinvention.
This newsletter is not here to push anyone toward leaving. It’s here for the ones who are quietly asking the question. The ones who hear a whisper. The ones for whom “liking your job” isn’t quite the same as wanting it forever.
A question for you
Alina’s question is simple, and I want to offer it to you not as a challenge, but as a small moment of honesty with yourself.
Is what you’re doing right now something you would want to do until you retire?
There is no correct answer. The answer “yes” is as valuable as the answer “no.” What matters is that you ask. What matters is that you don’t avoid hearing whatever comes back.
If the answer is yes, that’s beautiful. Keep going with your full self.
If the answer is no, that doesn’t mean you have to leave tomorrow. Alina didn’t. She freelanced on weekends for years before she quit her job. The “no” is a compass, not an alarm bell. It tells you which direction you’re facing. What you do next is a separate conversation.
Either way, the question is the green light. Asking it is the start of something.
Listen to my full conversation with Alina Mărgineanu on YouTube or Spotify (linked above). We talk about her transition from corporate to founder, a beautiful exercise for finding your childhood self, and the concept of staying with the “red lights” in your life because a green one is always coming.
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Until next week,
Cris
Author of Follow That Whisper · Host of Catching More Green Lights in Life